Brace Yourself

This week I have chosen to talk about same-sex attraction and my stance on gay marriage and relationships. If this is something you are easily offended by, please move on to the next blog. There is no denying that same-sex attraction is real. I know a few people still under the impression the it is 100% a choice for every single gay person out there. This is not true. I do believe there are a few who did chose that lifestyle recently and I do not condone that. But most have become that way because of circumstances and family dynamics. I do not believe that they were born that way but instead, very small or sometimes big things that happen very early in their lives have lead them to become that way. In some situations, these boys have been raped or molested by male family members or other male roles in their lives. This can lead to sexual confusion when it was done at such a young age. Or if a boy does not feel accepted by his same sex through his father being unloving or un-involved, or boys at school not treating him the same. The boy could then long for that acceptance from his own sex instead of girls and if this happens at the wrong age, it can be confused as attraction and then develop into a long term same-sex attraction. Watch this documentary about gay men and their search for help. It has been very enlightening to me and I hope it will be the same for you.

From an LDS prospective, the Church has not denied that same-sex attraction does exist. Being gay is not a sin, acting on it is. There are plenty of people in the church that are openly gay and still have callings, still hold the priesthood, and still have temple recommends. There are many gays that are happily married to women and have children and have been able to be strong against temptation. It is possible to be a strong member of this church and be gay, you just have to control your desires and that is not easy for anyone. It's not easy for straight people to be chaste just as it is not easy for gays. Please visit this site to view the church's full stance on same-sex attraction.