Let's Talk About It...

I know this can be an uncomfortable subject but it is so very important. Especially now when people seem to think there is no consequence or importance on the people we have sexual relations with.This simply is not true. There has been study after study showing the affect that sexual intimacy has on the brain and on the hormones and emotions. Hormones are released that cause attachment and bonding. When you have relations with someone, links have been made and what happens next will affect you. Not all that long ago, It was still considered wrong to sleep around with out being in a marriage or at least a committed relationship. Now though, it is common place to have relations with people who are practically strangers just for the "fun" of it. Neither person is to expect anything from the other person aside from sex. Which is a big thing to give. 

You are putting yourself in probably he most vulnerable and open position you could possibly be in and it would be so easy to be hurt. SO why would you put yourself in that situation with anyone other than a spouse?At least when you are married, you are safer. It is less likely you will get hurt. Less likely that they will leave you. More likely they will take responsibilities for their actions and almost a guarantee that they will stay around for the "consequences" - aka: the blessing of having child. 

I am so grateful that I waited for marriage. I will admit, I am human, and it was not easy; but it was the best decision and commitment I ever made. It has brought us so much closer and helps open the door to each others' thoughts and feelings in a safe and inviting environment. It provides a way for you to become so much closer with someone else than you could otherwise be. Not to mention the beautiful blessings of children that can come. 

In short. I implore you to save intimacy for marriage. It is worth the wait. Ladies, please be strong. I learned in one of my classes that it can be said that women give sex to feel and be loved while men give love to receive sex. Be patient. It will pay off. Men, be even more patient. Do not pressure a girl just because you feel pressure. If you are patient, she will reward you for it. Communicate! Sex is awkward but the best thing you can do is be open and 100% honest with each other.